Need to Simplify Your Life as a Mom, for Your Sanity?
Too many moms are overworked, underappreciated, exhausted, and full of guilt over what they are not getting done. Do you fall into any of those categories? If so, let’s talk about how you can simplify your life as a mom and eliminate those negative feelings.
Did you know when you brought those little two-legged creatures home that they would wander around your home making endless requests? And that so much of your mental capacity would shift to making your family run seamlessly?
I didn’t. So ever since the fingers and toes in our family multiplied, I have been trying different ways to simplify my life. And honestly, keep from having a mental breakdown….
I have found that the following six things truly help me keep my sanity and simplify my life.
Start simplifying your life today by doing these 6 simple things.
1. Stop Buying Crap
Seriously, stop it.
I know that Target sucks us into the great mom abyss, they entice us to buy all those cute things that we tell ourselves we need. If we were not enjoying being out of the house so much, we probably wouldn’t fill our buggies quite so full. (I know this isn’t just me, I see other moms there too!)
So let’s wake up and stop cluttering our lives with stuff we could really live without.
As moms, buying less stuff equates to:
- Less Laundry
- Less Stuff to Pick Up or Trip Over
- Less to Dust (HA! Dust…What is that?!?!?!)
- More Money
- More Time
So today, make a promise to yourself that for the next 30 days that you will not purchase anything that is not for a basic need. (Basically, food or toilet paper.)
Then at the end of 30 days, decide if you have truly missed any of those things you felt the urge to buy. If not, simply turn those 30 days into a lifestyle change.
Going forward, when you consider buying anything other than toilet paper or groceries, stop and think: “Is this going to give me more time and money or more stuff to do?”
Let me state the obvious, if your answer is “More stuff to do,” do not buy it!
Note to Shopaholics: You know who you are. Roll your eyes all you want to. I am not qualified to fix you, but seriously…… I beg you to really consider this before your next shopping spree: Does the stuff that you are buying truly make you happier OR does it cause more discomfort?
Financial struggles, clutter, and relationship conflicts are not worth the stuff you are buying!
2. Learn to Say “No.”
Seriously, don’t people say “No,” to you?
If no one has ever said no to you, please stop reading, because your life is perfect. I want to be you. PLEASE let me in on your secret!
The rest of us that live in the real world. A world where our toddler, pre-teen, or teenager tell us “No,” quite frequently. Take a page from our kids and……just say “No!”
I completely understand that learning to say “No,” is REALLY hard. I still struggle with this one.
Stop denying yourself the freedom to say no.
When you say yes to all those to-dos that don’t help you achieve your goals, you are wasting your time and energy. As moms, time and energy are truly sacred.
Next time someone asks you to do something, no matter how simple, ask yourself:
- Does it support my goals?
- Does it support my family?
- Does it conflict with my schedule?
Your goals make you who you are. Your family (this includes yourself) is the priority.
You can do it….just say “No!”
3. Toss The Piles
You know the ones. Those random little piles around the house that you keep telling yourself you will handle later: fix, sew, donate, etc.
Time to get rid of the piles to free up the mental anguish you have EVERY time you see them!
This week I want you to gather up all those piles and:
- Trash the truly broken items that you honestly will not fix
- Fix any broken items that you can fix – Or drop off to someone else to fix
- Sew the buttons back on or trash it
- Fix the clothing rips or trash it
- Take the donate pile to the donation drop off box
Use this action item to free yourself from the guilt of continuously staring a to-do. Take 1 hour out of your evening or weekend and get rid of the little piles or sacks of stuff.
Simplicity here you come!
4. Make Your List of To-Dos
You know that mental list that you carry around with you, always? Write it down.
Now that you have it on paper either: block off the time on your calendar to do it OR write it on another piece of paper.
Blocked it on your calendar?
- Write it down on all calendars and follow through
- Add a reminder on your phone so you will follow through
- Don’t schedule something over that calendar item, so you will follow through
Put it down on another piece of paper?
- You must not really NEED to do it
- TEAR UP THIS PIECE OF PAPER
- Let all those to-dos go, along with the shreds of paper, into the trash!
5. Declutter One Room In Your Home
Pick the room in your home that drives you the most nuts. Clean it out!
So, how do you go about this?
- Toss the junk you can’t use. (expired food, broken toys, holey clothes)
- Donate the stuff that does not serve a function or have a place in your home. (extra lamp, old baby bed)
- Donate the stuff you don’t love. (If you would not buy it again, get rid of it.)
- Let your kids do the vacuuming, dusting, window cleaning, wiping down!
Yes, I know, you do not have a big block of time to tackle this project. But you will be surprised what you can get done by dedicating little chunks of time a few times a week to this. Turn on your favorite podcast or music and time will pass in no time.
If your kids are old enough, involve them in this project. Take the opportunity to teach them that stuff is just stuff and it is okay to let it go.
I recently shared with my kids the stories of, all too close, experiences that I had with true hoarders. The kids were totally grossed out and immediately wanted to start clearing out.
Cleaning out a space that causes you mental anguish is completely freeing, with an added bonus of setting a great example for your kiddos.
6. Let GO of the GUILT
Last but not least…. Take Elsa’s awesome advice and “Let it Go!”
Find freedom in letting the guilt go. Guilt’s only purpose is to hold you back from what you can truly accomplish.
As a mom, you are awesome. You provide unconditional love and support for your kids. So show yourself some grace and just let all the guilt fall off your shoulders.
Focus your thoughts on the positive things you have and will accomplish.
Trust me, you kids are grateful for you.
Be grateful for the simple things in life and mom life will simplify itself!
Free Yourself Now
- Stop buying stuff you don’t need.
- Start saying NO to the things in your life that do not help you achieve your life goals.
- Toss the piles of stuff that you keep telling yourself you are going to do something with.
- Clear your mind of the To-Do list and either take action or let it go.
- Clear out and clean up ASAP the room or area that drives you the craziest.
- Let go of the guilt and replace it with gratefulness.
Take these six steps to simplify your life. Free yourself from the overwhelm and guilt now. Stop and enjoy your family.
I get it, life it hard. Let’s not make it harder on ourselves by committing ourselves to things we don’t get purpose out of or making our job harder as moms by surrounding ourselves with stuff.
Allow yourself to be you, by living intentionally and simply.
Don’t forget to pin this for other moms if you found my sanity tips valuable!